Techtiquette answers your burning questions about the proper way to use technology in social situations.Dear Hope, Show My friend has a hard and fast rule about being friends with her coworkers on Facebook: Don't do it, and maybe never do it, even if you or they leave the company. I just graduated from college, and am in my first full-time job. Should I follow her advice? Or is it OK to be friends with them online? What about LinkedIn, Twitter and Instagram? To say you won't connect with coworkers online is erring on the side of caution -- especially if their opinion of you can impact your professional and financial life. Bosses who follow certain employees and comment or like their posts on Twitter (TWTR) or Instagram can be accused of favoritism. Coworkers may fret over pictures from parties they weren't invited to, adding nastiness to office politics. Secret job searches no longer stay secret if you publish a suspicious update to your LinkedIn (LNKD) profile. There are real examples of people who have been fired because of social media posts too. Last year, a hospital worker in Houston was let go from her job after she published violent thoughts about Ferguson protesters on her Facebook page. In April, a veterinarian was fired from her job after she posted a photo of a stray cat she shot with an arrow. Even if you're careful about what you post, you can't control what others do. A well-meaning friend can drag your personal details out of the shadows with just one tag. Strangers can call out your activities and land you in hot water. Scary consequences aside, there can be many benefits to friending your co-workers on social media (as long as you stay vigilant about your behavior). Creating a personal bond outside of the office can build camaraderie quickly. And the longer you stay at a job, desk buddies, bosses and mentors can become some of your best friends, so keeping in touch online will become a natural extension of your relationships. Ultimately, your decision should come down to two things: how you view your Facebook account and the specifics of your job. Is Facebook a glorified phone book that you don't really update? Do you see it as your personal fan club, where you try to friend as many people as possible and post as much stuff about your life as possible? Do you work for a small, casual company? Then adding coworkers probably doesn't matter much. But if your office mates aren't people who would understand or appreciate your after-hours lifestyle, or if you prefer to keep a strict boundary between your work and personal life, then you have the perfect reasons to say no. Do you add your work friends on Facebook? Tweet at your teammates? Instagram DM other individual contributors? Turns out, most of us do … but should we? In today’s debate, we hear the promise and perils of connecting with colleagues on social media.Debater Rani Shah argues in favor of adding colleagues online, alongside her guest Susan McPherson, author of The Lost Art of Connecting. Maren Hotvedt comes out against the practice, supported by Dr. Casey S. Pierce, an assistant professor in the School of Information at the University of Michigan, who shares the risks of merging your online and work selves. Episode References
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If you haven't had lunch or a conversation with colleagues in real life, it's off-putting to friend them online. “The time frame for connecting with them [online] is after you build a personal bond.
Is it OK to add a co worker on Facebook?Some people are happy to 'friend' colleagues at work who they consider to be peers but avoid more senior colleagues or bosses. Another option is to add colleagues, but then avoid posting intimate details of your private life. Whichever Facebook policy you adopt, it is important to be aware of potential pitfalls.
Should you be FB friends with coworkers?A lot depends on your workplace culture, too. If you work in a small, laid-back company and had a good relationship with your boss or coworkers prior to employment, being friends online is likely okay. However, if you choose to add people from work on social media, be hyper-vigilant with your behavior.
Should you add work colleagues on social media?Generally, there is no problem with having a colleague on social media who is a friend and knows you well. But, as a rule of thumb, it's probably best not to add people who you dislike or someone who is a senior member of staff. For more advice on life at work, check out the rest of our blogs!
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