How to see messages on Facebook from non friends

Did you know that Facebook Messenger hides some messages from you by default? While you’ll see messages from your friends and contacts immediately, the service hides lower-quality messages you might not want to see.

We’ll show you how to see hidden messages on Facebook Messenger, plus give tips on controlling how you see them.

The menu to access your hidden messages is out of sight, but easy to open.

To access it on desktop, open Messenger by going to Messenger.com. Click your profile picture at the top-left of the screen and choose Message Requests. This will change your active view to show requests instead of normal messages.

You can also do this on Facebook’s main site, though the messages don’t appear as prominently this way so we don’t recommend it. Click the Messenger logo at the left to show your messages in a slide-out panel, then click the three-dot menu at the top to show more options. Select Message requests and you’ll see the same menu as above in a more compact view.

To see your hidden messages in the mobile Messenger app, tap your profile picture at the top-left and choose Message requests from the resulting menu. We’ll use the desktop version to illustrate below, but the same applies to the mobile apps.

Once you have this menu open using either method, it shows two tabs: You may know and Spam. You may know holds messages from friends of friends, or people that Facebook thinks you might have a connection to. Spam, as the name suggests, filters messages from people you have no connection with.

For both types, you can read what the person sent you. You’ll see basic details about them at the top of the chat, like where they live and if you have any connection on Facebook.

Until you reply, the other person can’t see if you’ve read their message or when you’re online on Messenger. Once you respond, Messenger will move the chat to your main inbox and treat it like any other. That person will then be able to see your online status, know that you’ve read their messages via Messenger’s icons, and can call you.

For messages you aren’t interested in, click the I don’t want to hear from [name] link above the reply box.

You’ll then get a choice to Delete chat (good for cleaning up your request inbox) or Block the person (useful if they won’t stop messaging you). Either way, the other person won’t be aware you’ve done this.

To delete many requests at once, click the Pencil icon to show checkboxes by all messages. Check the boxes for each one you want to erase, then choose Delete to remove them.

How to Control Which Facebook Messages Go to Requests

If this was your first time digging into your message requests box, you might be surprised how much is there. If you find that too many many messages are being filtered, or messages that should be caught in the filter are going to your primary inbox, you can adjust how Messenger deals with these.

To do so on desktop, click your profile picture at the top-right of Messenger and choose Preferences. In this menu, click Manage message delivery, which will bring you to the Privacy page on Facebook’s main Settings menu. The relevant settings are in the How You Get Message Requests section at the bottom.

To see this on the mobile Messenger app, select your profile picture and go to Privacy > Message delivery.

Note that in addition to the below controls, Facebook will move messages it detects as going against its Community Standards to Spam. In addition, people from Marketplace, Facebook dating, or a Facebook job post can message you directly.

Potential Connections: Legitimate Requests

In the Potential Connections section, you can choose how to handle message requests from People with your phone number and Friends of friends on Facebook. The former includes anyone who has your number in their phone and has uploaded it to Facebook, even if they aren’t Facebook friends with you. This is relevant since you can use Messenger without Facebook.

For both of these, opt to have new messages go to Chats (your main inbox) or Message requests—or choose Don’t receive requests to block them all.

Other People: Probably Spam

For the Other people section, you can choose to have messages go to Message requests, or Don’t receive requests to block them all. Others on Facebook includes anyone you don’t have a connection with.

Since Messenger now works across Facebook and Instagram, the Accounts on Instagram toggle controls people reaching out from the other app. If you’re checking these controls in the mobile Messenger app, tap Add your Instagram account to link your Facebook and Instagram accounts for a more seamless experience.

How to See Your Archived Messages on Messenger

Archiving chats is one of Messenger’s lesser-known but useful features. When you archive a conversation, it’s removed from your inbox but is still active. Next time someone sends a message in the chat, it will reappear in your main list.

To archive a chat in Messenger, click the three-dot button that appears next to it and choose Archive chat. On the mobile app, long-press on a conversation in your inbox to see this option.

To see all your archived chats in one place, click your profile picture and choose Archived chats. From there, you can click the three-dot button again and choose Unarchive chat to put it back in your inbox, or Delete chat if you’re done with it.

This is useful for reducing clutter in your message list without deleting the thread in case you need it later.

How to Block People on Facebook Messenger

To complete our discussion on managing hidden and unread messages on Messenger, don’t forget you can block people on Messenger to prevent them from contacting you. To access this page, click your profile picture in Messenger and choose Preferences > Manage blocking.

This page contains several ways to block people; choose Block messages and search for anyone you want to block. These people won’t be able to contact you on Messenger, but can still connect on Facebook. If you don’t want to hear from them at all, add them to the Block users list instead.

We’ve walked through all the ways to find hidden messages in Messenger, along with how to control what messages you receive.

Unfortunately, there’s no way to view unread messages on Facebook Messenger. While this option used to exist, it’s not present in the latest version, so you’ll have to check for unread messages manually.

Meanwhile, if you love Messenger, there’s a lot more to discover about it.